How To Know if You’re Actually Having an Orgasm - Exclusive

The female orgasm can be a puzzle for men — after a while, some guys just say screw it and go watch soccer.

When you first become sexually active, it can be hard to tell if you're orgasming. An orgasm is an intensely pleasurable physical response that results from the release of tension built up during sexual stimulation. There are some physical signals that can clue you in if you're on your way too. When you're aroused, your heart beats faster, your breathing quickens, your nipples become erect, and your genitals become engorged with blood. As arousal climbs, these sensations increase until you orgasm.

While the physical process is the same for everyone, the actual orgasmic experience varies from woman to woman and time to time. You might feel a mild tingle one time and an explosive full-body rush the next. However, there are some general tip-offs, such as contractions in your vagina, pelvic lifting or thrusting, curling of the toes or fingers, heavy, rapid breathing and moaning, and a sense of euphoria.

Chances are, if you're not sure whether you've reached the big O, you probably haven't: The feeling is so distinct, it's unlikely you'd confuse it with anything else. If you suspect that you aren't climaxing, you can learn to by becoming familiar with your body and how it reacts to sexual stimulation. Have you tried masturbating? Consider checking out some of these masturbation techniques, once you've mastered your own domain, you'll be better able to let your partner know what turns you on.

The trick is to experiment using different types of touch until you find the method that works for you, then go with it. It also helps to focus on what you're feeling in the moment rather than worrying about achieving the goal of orgasm. "Deep breathing is a fantastic way to let go of distracting thoughts." Also keep in mind that not everyone can achieve orgasm, either with a partner or ever, and that's OK!. But remember that the fun of sex is in the exploration, which encompasses so much more than a climax.